Comments on: Nice shirt, I have one just like it

By: Riley

Riley — Sat, 12 Aug 2006 15:25:42 +0000

Americans in particular seem generally unable (unwilling?) to allw a male and female enjoy a conversation or have fun together outside the context of courtship and mating. Virtually all heterosexual are imprisoned in the explicit and implicit belief that all heterosexual interactions are potential or active “relationships” that must be moving towards monogamy for purposes of mating. How silly�

By: anonymous

anonymous — Thu, 24 Feb 2005 15:19:47 +0000

We need an “in” cause we are scared of being rejected. Plain and simple. If that person is a potential date, friend, business opportunity, friend of a friend I might be interested in, I need an “in”. They are good to have. I’m not scared of a strangers point of view, or being rejected by a complete stranger, so, therefore, I find it easy to talk to strangers, and yes, I do make contacts that create new “ins” in roundabout ways. The word “in” always was, and always will be, to a certain extent. That’s how life works. Adios

By: lucent

lucent — Fri, 19 Mar 2004 05:02:16 +0000

I’m sorry you thought it was pessimistic. I should’ve pointed out some of the more optimistic conclusions it implied like good friends are made, not found. It was also quite heartening when flying over a city at night and looking down at the lights and considering I could’ve been lifelong friends with a good half of them.

By: cira_rayanne

cira_rayanne — Tue, 16 Mar 2004 08:42:26 +0000

Society today rejects blatent individualism, therefore people most look for a conversation stater in order to begin something. If someone just randomly started talking to me on a subway I would be scared and assuem that they want to rob or rape me. People reject anything other than the norm. One cannot just hop into bed with someone for noticing them. A relationship, whether romantic or platonic, must be gained by some effort. And that effort is the “in.” The “in” is necessary for any good relationship. As you have the “in” representing a common interest between two people, it naturally is the basis of a relationsip. If two people have nothing in common, yet they are friends, that friendship will not last long. They will run out of things to talk about, places to go, and people to hang out with to supplement the group. I don’t see how you consider the average person’s views of love to be easily acquired. Personally, i regard love as fickle and hard to get a grasp of. And I value it when I have it, regardless of difficulties caused by obstacles hitting it. Overall it was a good essay, but as per custom I’ll have to disagree with some of your ideas. It was a little too pessimistic for my taste. Go watch a chick flick and get some Starbucks and then write it again. Good title though.